Today I had the chance to see Shane Koyczan live. If you don't remember who he is, Shane preformed "We Are More" in the Vancouver Olympic opening ceremonies, which was my favorite part of the entire show. He is funny, touching, and inspiring.
I had planned to share one of his funny pieces with you, but this one caught my heart. Recently I reconnected with a childhood friend of mine, who I found out has inoperable lung cancer. We stayed up until 1:30 am the other night, reminiscing about our days in grade two playing boys chase the girls, laughing about mishaps and old friends, and connecting in a way that we haven't in the last 18 years.
The next day, Jake asked me why I was so tired and when I explained, he asked why I would stay up so late. The words tumbled out before I even had time to think,
"There's something to be said about old friends that you played with as a child. If I could take his cancer, help him be pain free, or in some way, make it better, I would. The reality is that I can't do anything. But what I CAN do is make him laugh, listen, and be a friend. And if that's all I can do, then damn it, I'm going to do it WELL. I can't think about where we'll be a year, or even six months from now. I have to think about now and given the opportunity to reminisce with him until 1:30 in the morning, dammit, I'm going to. I don't care how tired I am in the morning."
Cancer, it feels like, is everywhere in my life some days and I'm learning, more than anything, to seize the moment. The dishes will wait, the dirt isn't going anywhere. Hug your kids, enjoy that bit of sunshine, savor that fresh baked brownie. Enjoy the rush of the wind on your face as you zip along on a motorcycle. Breathe the salt air deeply, while you can.
Tell your friends that you love them, every chance you get.
Enjoy. You might need tissues. I sure did.